They want a relationship but they also want freedom and space.They have a history of short relationships or never been married.They are very charming and usually very affectionate and loving at the beginning.They know an ongoing sexual relationship often leads to commitment, so they choose to run when things start to head in that direction.They spin stories to justify their contradictory behavior.They can be moody and blame the other person for why they’re acting so bizarrely.They lie, or are evasive and secretive about where they are and what they are doing to create space.They are often unfaithful in relationships.They can be overly committed to their work or to their children to avoid spending a lot of time with the orther person.Behavioral inconsistencies are very noticeable when they find themselves getting too close.They become argumentative and abusive, or they create distance. They are in a constant state of emotional conflict because of their negative irrational beliefs about love, commitment and relationships. They display some of these behaviours:
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Or they may initially agree to the commitment, then back down days or weeks later, because of their overwhelming anxiety and fears. Commitment-phobic persons are tortured souls full of fear.
If pressed for a commitment, they are far more likely to leave the relationship than to make the commitment. Fear of intimacy and deep emotional connection. People with a commitment phobia want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long. People with a commitment phobia do want a long-term connection with another person, but their overwhelming anxiety prevents them from staying in any relationship for too long.Ĭommitment phobia is something I see in my practice often and happens to both women and men. When something devastating occurs, your ability to see the world as kind may be shattered and you find yourself always waiting for the other shoe to drop. There is a disconnect between your feelings and what you believe life is supposed to be like. If this has happened to you, trusting again is something you may not be ready for. When someone you love or are connected to betrays you, the healing process is a deep one and can take some time. It could be from an abusive relationship with a relative.
This commitment-phobia may be due to an earlier trauma.
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